I hope you’re all wading your way through At Home, and hopefully finding bits (or chunks) here and there that grab your attention. Take notes! Dogear your pages! Use the highlight feature in your eReader! Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to finish the book, AND remember what you wanted to talk about. 

For the month of May, we’ve settled on The Birth House, by Ami McKay. This book was shortlisted for CBC Radio’s Canada Reads program in 2011, and although it didn’t win, it has garnered worldwide critical acclaim.  The story is set in rural Nova Scotia in the time leading up the First World War. An obstetrition comes to a tiny Maritime town and opens up his shiny new clinic in which to deliver babies, pitting him against the local midwife. The story details life in a small Eastern Canadian town, but it is set against a backdrop of tumultuous societal upheaval. I can’t wait. We’ll have lots to discuss, I’m sure.

Our next meeting will be on April 26, and our May meeting will be held on the 31st.  Mark your calendars!

“You are everything good and straight and fine and true – and I see that so clearly now, in the way you’ve carried yourself and listened to your own heart.  You’ve changed me more than you know, and will always be a part of everything I am. That’s the one thing I’ve learned from this. No one you love is ever truly lost.”

Did he really love Hadley? Or did he use her as a rung in his climb to fame, the way he had used so many others? Just as in any marriage, no one can ever really know what goes on within it, except the two people involved.  We can only guess, and surmise from the scraps of evidence the partners leave behind. In the Paris Wife, author Paula McLain does this admirably, gathering reams of research, then imagining what this part of Hemingway’s life was like for Hadley, the wife of his youth, and of Paris. We will never know whether he actually wrote this to her, but we do know that he dedicated his first bestseller to her. 

When we meet Elizabeth Hadley Richardson and Ernest Hemingway in the opening pages, we already know their relationship is doomed, but we are compelled to try to understand why, when it seemed even at the end of his huge life, that he still loved her. We meet the two in Chicago, in 1921 – Hadley broken by family tragedy and rapidly approaching spinsterhood, and Ernest, equally damaged by his experience in the Great War, and by his failed first relationship. Both carry the shadows of suicide with them, shadows that would follow them and become part of their legend. Hadley is 8 years his senior, naive and inexperienced. They marry quickly, and just as quickly move to Paris so that Ernest can focus on his writing. (incidentally, as a foreign correspondent for the Toronto Star). There they are enfolded into the American expatriate community, the likes of Gertrude Stein, Alice Toklas, Ezra Pound, Dorothy Shakespear, and the Fitzgeralds, Scott and Zelda.  The book details the glittering and alcohol-soaked life of 1920s Paris, Spain and Switzerland, the Hemingways’ brief foray to Toronto for the birth of their son, and the eventual disintegration of their lifestyle and marriage.

Before they were known as “the Lost Generation”, these were simply a group of people in the midst of a societal revolution. The world was throwing off the shackles of the Victorian Era. It was a time of free love, easy money, and flexible morals.  Nothing seemed truly scandalous. We considered the similarities between the ’20s, the ’60s and today. Yes, was all fun at the time, but in the end they weren’t called “the Lost Generation” for nothing. Something to consider perhaps, for the “Hook-Up Generation” of today.

Hadley straddled two worlds, considering herself more Victorian than modern, and her struggle to define herself in her roles as wife, mother and friend is evident throughout the book. She found herself profoundly lonely in Paris, out of style and out of touch among the friends she met there. In a new world that valued autonomy and the newfound freedom of women, she watched from the edges as people redefined themselves. Swimming against the tide, Hadley tried valiantly to mold herself into someone she believed her husband wanted. She made his ambitions her own and supported him even when it cost her her dignity. We considered that it may have been this very facet of her personality that initially attracted Ernest. It may have also been why her absence is so painfully obvious in “the Sun Also Rises”. She never did fit in.

As a group and on the whole, I think we understood Hadley. No, we didn’t understand how she could have left her baby for months at a time, or why she stayed in the room when her best friend slipped between the sheets. But we did understand how she could have allowed herself to be naive, and how much she must have loved Ernest. The person we could not understand was Pauline. Did she befriend the couple with the intent to make Hemingway her own? How could she have continued the facade of a friendship with Hadley when everyone knew what was happening? We couldn’t say that we didn’t feel some Schadenfreude when we learned that in the end, Pauline’s fate with Ernest mirrored Hadley’s own.

We may not have liked Hemingway much, and probably didn’t identify with him, but we did see him as a person we may not have known before reading the book. Of course we know he was a complicated human being. Hemingway had a pattern of broken relationships in his life – from his marriages, to his family and his friendships, he never seemed to be able to make many of them last.  F.Scott Fitzgerald famously quipped, “Ernest would always give a helping hand to a man on a ledge a little higher up.” He was obsessed with the bullfight, that epic battle between the individual and the mythic creature bent on destroying the hero. And of course, as history has shown, he was more than a little obsessed with his own larger-than-life persona. It was interesting to note that whether or not we liked the book, all of us were curious to research Hemingway further, and read, or perhaps re-read some of his work. This may have been part due to the few passages in the book that are written in Hemingway’s voice, and that we all thought gave the book an added dimension.

We talked about whether or not Hadley should have stuck it out and fought harder for her marriage. At the end of the book Hadley answers the question herself:  “There are some who said I should have fought harder or longer than I did for my marriage, but in the end fighting for a love that was already gone felt like trying to live in the ruins of a lost city.  I couldn’t bear it, and so I backed away – and the reason I could do it at all, the reason I was strong enough and had the legs and heart to do it is because Earnest had come along and changed me. he helped me see what I really was and what I could do. Now that I knew what I could bear, I would have to bear losing him.”

Hemingway’s last book, published posthumously, was “A Moveable Feast”, detailing his early years in Paris. Hadley figures prominently.

“Before you act, listen.
Before you react, think.
Before you spend, earn.
Before you criticize, wait.
Before you pray, forgive.
Before you quit, try.”

So begin the 74th annual Hunger Games, in the futuristic state of Panem.  Two representatives (Tributes), one boy and one girl from each of the twelve districts of the state, are chosen by lottery to compete to the death in an arena in the Capitol. The Games are televised throughout the entire country and it is mandatory that all citizens watch. The protagonist, 16-year-old Katniss Everdeen decides to stand in for her 12-year-old sister Primrose when Prim’s name comes up in the draw. Katniss, along with her co-competitor, Peeta Mellark, travel to the Capitol, where they are fed, primped and coached to compete in the Games. It is in the Capitol that Peeta finally reveals his life-long love for Katniss, and in doing so, the rules of the game are changed, such that in the end, (spoiler alert!) both Peeta and Katniss are allowed to survive and win the Game together.

It was apparent when the 11 of us arrived at Devereaux House that we were all eager to sit down and begin our discussion. There was very little preamble! The obvious first question was whether we liked the book. With a couple of exceptions, the consensus was overwhelmingly positive. Most of us found ourselves immediately drawn into the story and said the book was almost impossible to put down. We liked the action and adventure aspect, as well the fast pace of the first-person narrative. We also liked the romance with the twist of the love triangle. We were all moved by the writing when Rue, the youngest contestant, died, and Katniss decorated her body with flowers.

We talked about why Peeta joined with the Careers at the start of the Games after telling her and the world that he loved her. Was it to stay close to his enemies in order to try to protect Katniss? Or could it have been that the Careers needed him in order to take Katniss out of the Game quickly? Did we think that Katniss really did love Peeta, or was she confused by her feelings for him, and her feelings for Gale?

The romance between Katniss and Peeta, and the relationship between Gale and Katniss provided an interesting counterpoint to the violence in the story, and we thought this was a way to engage female readers. Those of us with daughters who had read the book said the girls loved the romantic elements of the book, whereas those of us with sons, said the boys enjoyed the action, adventure and rapid pace. Indeed, there is something for everyone!

We were a group of women and mothers discussing the book, however, this is a novel written primarily for a Young Adult audience (grade 7 and up). We all know, or know of, readers as young as Grade 4 who have read the book. We discussed whether a book with this subject matter was appropriate for kids, and if so, for what ages.  Most of us recalled reading William Golding’s “Lord of the Flies”, but seemed to remember being slightly older – late middle school or high school – when we read the book.  It must have made an impression on us because so many of us remember it so vividly. As such, we wondered whether younger kids would have the capability for analysis in “Hunger Games”, especially given the dark themes in this trilogy of books. There was no question that “Hunger Games” is a disturbing book, but is there a chance for hope and redemption within it to offset those themes? Would Good vs Evil play out in a way that kids would be able to recognise it, and question it, when it seemed like Good was not winning the battle?

With the exception of a few, we felt there is redemption, and for that reason, many of us said it is a book that we would allow, or encourage our kids to read.  Katniss, after all, makes a compelling female role model. She sacrifices herself without hesitation for her younger sister. She is strong and smart, confident and capable. She captures the hearts of not one, but two boys, and never panders, or plays second fiddle to either. She tries very hard throughout the horrors of the Games, to remain true to her values, and to herself. Peeta declares his love for Katniss and tries at all costs to himself to protect her. Haymitch becomes and ally rather than an enemy, and Katniss finds a surprising friend ship with Cinna, and then with the Avox girl. Some of us however, depending on our feelings about the book, and the ages or temperments of our kids, felt strongly that we did not want our kids to read it.

We all heartily agreed though, that this is a book that should be discussed with our kids if they read it. The issues addressed – the politics, the violence and murder, the reality-tv aspects, and the parallels to our modern society are very often morally complex, and more explanation might be needed for kids who are reading this book and just beginning to expand and explore their understanding of the world.

As the evening wound down, those of us who hadn’t read the other two books in the trilogy were strongly encouraged to do so. We were told that many explanations are given in the following books to questions left dangling in the first.

I have a strong feeling we’re not done with these books yet – we may just need to have a follow-up evening to this series.  In any case, details for a dinner-and-a-movie night will come next month. We’re all anxious to see Katniss on the big screen!

  “Be excellent to each other.”  Bill and Ted, from Bill & Ted’s Excellent Adventure